|Grace Space is what happens|
when busy caregivers still
catch the birdsong...
My hope with Because I CARE and every opportunity I have to speak to individuals and groups about caregiving is that I help others find Grace Space amidst their caregiver duties.
I know that some people find themselves in the heat of caregiving wondering how they ended up there. Some resent being caregivers and have many “why me?” moments. Many caregivers receive an emotional beating each time they try to help their caree. Not everyone sees caregiving as an opportunity. Perhaps for them, Grace Space is even more important to find. But all caregivers need it. The good news is that it’s easy to find.
Start with realizing that you’re not alone. There are others out there who are willing to help, whether it’s to give much needed advice, a nudge to finally set some worries aside with action, or tips for making tasks easier. Hopefully you’re getting bits of all of that here. I can’t exactly help you with the pile of laundry building up because you don’t have time to do it, but I can remind you that some Laundromats have drop-off service and will wash and fold for you. The fee for doing that once in a while is worth it - and gives you grace space.
It’s easy to get so bogged down in the daily details of care that you put off the obvious things that will take the weight off. If you’re disorganized with all the information coming in and get a headache every morning trying to sort through the duties of the day, quit beating yourself up for it and find some tools to help (hint - start the caregiver’s notebook). You’ll find grace space in the moments you’re not crazily digging through your purse trying to find the appointment card you stuck in there - Grace Space is that deep breath you take when you actually make it to the appointment on time.
Simply by removing some of the details, the weight is lifted and even the smallest bits of time are opened up. Those precious moments when you actually breathe = Grace Space.
It’s whatever lets you reconnect with your children, spouse, friends, and yourself.
It’s having those few moments to actually take time to get your hair done and breathing enough to actually enjoy the scalp massage.
It’s what opens your ears to the birdsong around you as you head out to the car on your way to the hospital.
Life is in the moments. But if you feel constantly overwhelmed by the details, there is no space for the moments that matter - the ones that keep us going. What's helped YOU to discover your Grace Space?