I was recently asked to write an article for the new issue of All About Seniors which is an incredible resource for services catering to the needs of seniors and caregivers, put out by Striped Rock Publications. I share the piece with you here and will be fleshing out its five main points in upcoming posts. There are so many ways to make this year a positive one, even if you're a harried caregiver wondering how you can possibly make it through another year of the long road you've been traveling. My hope is that by sharing a new perspective for the new year, you will find a.....
New Year, New You
Opening the pages of a new calendar gives people a moment to pause and take stock of how they are filling those empty spaces. For many, they’ve just closed a calendar filled with unexpected happenings. For seniors and caregivers, those are often health issues that took up much more time as well as emotional and physical energy than they ever wished to make room for. Sometimes we don’t have choices as to the challenges we face. But the good news is that we do have choices with how we face them. Here are a few ways that seniors and caregivers can designate space on their calendars and in their busy lives for taking proactive steps for making those unexpected challenges more manageable in this, a new year.
- Who is your go-to person for help and support in a crisis? If you have a crisis plan, then you’re prepared and worry about uncertainties will not weigh down your outlook. For seniors, perhaps it’s time to get the children involved a little more. For adult caregivers of aging parents, perhaps it’s time to check in with the siblings or friends to get everyone on the same page for where things stand now.
- What are you learning? Have you or your loved one faced a health challenge by pretending it doesn’t exist? We all know someone who has. How are you educating yourself about your needs? The fast pace of medical advances challenges us, the consumers of medical care, to educate ourselves. Learn about your condition and ask that doctor questions. No matter what stage of life you are in, the better you understand your own body, the better you and your doctor can create a winning team to avert medical crises and maintain good health.
- When are you taking time for yourself? Everyone needs something of their own. Whether it’s getting your nails done once a month, taking an art class, or planning time when no one else is making demands on you, schedule ‘me’ time, now. If you can’t work in a large garden any more, plant a flower box. Find options for activities you enjoy that you can do. For seniors, it’s understandable to mourn the things your body may not let you do anymore, but take charge by finding new interests or building on old interests in ways you can still connect with them.
- Where are you gaining support? Build a community for support and encouragement as your life flows through the year. For some, this centers on church or religious connections. Others look to senior activity centers. Some are part of the growing online support groups. Plan time for building those networks, and if you don’t have one yet, find one and schedule time for nurturing the connection.
- Why and How are you doing the things you do? Check your motivation for how you approach people and activities in your life. Are you doing them because you want to or because you have to? Can you turn your perspective around a bit and find ways to make things you have to do, things you want to do? Adopting a more positive way of approaching your life will make the whole year seem brighter and more manageable despite the challenges that may come. Try writing a theme for each month and focusing on that as you approach your daily activities. Consider how you might use the themes of love, adventure, kindness, creativity and gratitude to guide you through the months ahead.
When looking at your new calendar, the key word is ‘new.’ Give yourself a break. Don’t be so hard on yourself this year. We all wish we could do more. Personally, God’s never delivered me the 28-hour day I’ve requested for years and He hasn’t let me turn back time to all me to fix things I wish I’d done differently. But we all have now. Make the most of it. Let the hurts and frustrations of the past stay there and use what you’ve learned to set a new tone for this year.